It’s hard to not be drawn into every new and better thing that pops up in our culture. Clean eating, vegetarian, plant based, whole 30, paleo and keto are just a few of the “ healthiest” diets going around. Each one claims to be the best by the way- backed by science of course. I may have jumped on the plant based bandwagon many times and I have friends that follow keto, paleo and Whole 30. Marie Kondo had all of us ditching, rolling and organizing like crazy and the minimalist movement has my garage full of items I haven’t found the time to drop off at Goodwill. There’s #nomakeup, gentle parenting, Financial Peace University, Budget Bootcamp, non toxic and everything in between that social media throws in our feed every day. None of these things are bad- in their own rite each can help improve our lives. But do they?
When we see an instagram story of the perfectly organized minimalist closet or play area- do we think how awesome that person’s space is or do we automatically feel like we are failing in our space? That #nomakeup selfie that is flawless- do we think how beautiful she is or how we wear too much makeup? The perfectly gentle parents, spotless house, organized pantry and uber healthy meals are absolutely wonderful- but not realistic..every..single..day. Psalm 139:14-16 says-
I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
We are each made unique per our Fathers desire. Some of us are decorating geniuses (not me), some are amazing chefs, others naturally patient and gentle and some budget masters. But most of us are not all of those things. The beauty of the body of Christ is how unique each of us are.
I struggle with this. I have always dealt with feelings of not being enough. Even now- close to 40 years old- I still struggle a bit. I want to be better than I had so I tend to question everything I do and everything I am. As I grow older I am realizing that even though adopting good bits of how others do things is ok- trying to be something I am not, no matter how good a habit it can be, will only lead to trouble.. and stress.
As we head into 2021.. about to set up all these resolutions we will most likely fail at.. we need to pull a FULL STOP! We do not need to set resolutions to be skinnier, more minimalist, healther, more organized or just like the instagram perfect moms to bring happiness and glory to God and live our lives to the fullest. Wanting to get healthy because we want to keep up with our kids and avoid disease or run a marathon is a great goal! Organizing our house because we can’t find our shoes or keys half the time is probably a goal worth setting. Adding yoga in because we have felt really impatient with our families will probably bring peace to our households. A goal in and of itself isn’t bad- we just need to be aware of our intentions behind them. Are we striving to be better versions of ourselves or are we trying to change who we are to fit into the culture’s version of perfection? Are we seeking God’s will and embracing the gifts he has given us or are we feeling like since we don’t live up to the fake Instagram standards we are not good enough and need to change who we are? See.. you in all your hot mess.. and me in mine… we are enough. God sent his son to die for your hot mess.. not your perfection. Accepting that is easier said than done- it takes time in God’s word and in prayer. It takes time away from social media and more time in actual connection. It takes accepting and loving who God made us to be and the season of life we are blessed to be in. I am in the season of littles and I love it. My house is pretty much always loud and as I type this I have a huge pile of laundry in my room… and 3 laundry baskets full in the garage. My backyard is a disaster, my plants in the front yard are dead, and even though I set a time limit on the kids tv every day- they have been watching tv for over an hour. I also have a healthy dinner prepped and ready to bake, homeschool finished, a clean kitchen and my makeup done. I don’t have to be a minimalist gentle parent who only feeds her kids organic plant based meals with no added sugar and has a constantly spotless house where the kids never make messes, read novels at age 2 and go to bed perfectly each night after watching zero tv all day. I just have to be who GOD made me to be. You- just have to be you. Take your favorite parts from all the “stuff”.. but just the parts that actually work for you and fit into who you are. And leave the rest for someone else 🙂 God doesn’t want a copycat of someone else- He wants you!
For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
2 Corinthians 12:9-10
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me. For the sake of Christ, then, I am content with weaknesses, insults, hardships, persecutions, and calamities. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Only let your manner of life be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of you that you are standing firm in one spirit, with one mind striving side by side for the faith of the gospel,